MIA

I feel like I’ve been a bit MIA lately.. Yes I’ve been posting things but my heart really isn’t in it at the moment.

Some of you may recall that back on the 16th April 2017 I posted a different kind of post.. far from the normal “I love travel and everything is good” kind of post.

A very good friend & work colleague of mine was diagnosed with terminal cancer just before Easter and ever since I’ve been trying to rack my brains around it all.Β To be honest with you all, I might have taken it harder than I thought I would – though how do you really prepare for news like that!

I have worked with this person for over 14 years. She was there when my dad died and when my mum got sick. She was there when I was struggling to come to terms that moving back to NZ wasn’t a good idea. She was there for all the ups & downs for my travels. She taught me most of what I know in regards to my job. She has seen me cry probably more than anyone else has & we have worked countless hours of overtime together when the end of the financial year comes around… you share a lot with someone when you work with them for 14 years!

I think the thing that shocked me the most is that she is never sick.. I mean NEVER!! It was a complete out of the blue situation for everyone.

I know this post sounds very “it’s all about me” but I can’t write this from the point of view of the person who has to live with this. I can only write this from my point of view. I can only write about how I feel about all this.

After the shock of the news kind of subsided.. though does it really ever go? I am now dealing with my own inadequacies. This person is an institution! I mean they have worked in my office for over 25 years and to say she knows a lot is an understatement. Now I have the daunting task of trying to learn all that I need to learn in the time we’ve been given – to be fair, she wants to beat this.. I want her to beat this and I don’t think I’m alone in that.

But at the end of the day we need to be realistic. She is not well enough to come to work every day. She wants to give chemo a go & I think we all know that chemo is a bitch of a thing. So I am trying to get her when she’s not tired and can put up with me asking stupid, inane questions. Though she did say to me that I’m not as stupid as I think I am so that was nice πŸ™‚

When it comes down to it.. I’m scared.

  • I’m scared for her – chemo is horrible and there is no guarantees that it will make a difference.
  • I am scared as she comes to terms with what is facing her.
  • I am scared about how we are all going to deal with what is coming (fingers crossed it doesn’t!)
  • I am scared for me
  • I am scared that I am not up to this task
  • I am scared that I feel like everyone is relying on me and I am going to let everyone down

So back to my first sentence – my heart really isn’t in anything anymore. I am posting things on Instagram and here just because I feel like I have to. But I really don’t want to.

I feel like I am at a crossroads – actually I feel like I’ve been at this point for a long time – and I don’t really know where to go from here.

Wow.. this got deep didn’t it. I guess I also feel like I need to explain myself. I don’t know why but I just do.

So what now? Well I guess I keep getting up every day and carrying on with life. I apologise for not being as active in cyberspace as I once was. I hope you can understand. But thanks for listening πŸ™‚

 

 

 

 

 

 


14 thoughts on “MIA

    1. Virtual hugs right back at ya! It’s horrible because you just don’t know what to say to the person but at the same time you have to deal with your own feelings. It’s a tough situation! Hope you & your family are doing ok πŸ™‚

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      1. Well not very at the moment. I am far away from them in the UK. My father-in-law is ill and my husband has travelled to Delhi to be with them but it is awful because the doctors are unable to figure out what is bothering him. But these are phases we have got to live with as human beings.

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      2. Oh no that’s awful! The worst thing is being away from them. I’m not as far from my family as you are but its so hard when you can’t be there. Hoping they find out what’s wrong soon xo

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  1. Hi Sarah, I feel for you and your current predicament. There’s not a lot I can say except to take it easy on yourself at this time, try to stay on top of things, try to keep doing what you want to do and if blogging’s not a priority then don’t feel you have to do it. It’s good to write things down and get them off your chest and you are being honest about your thoughts by the sounds of things. It’s a hard time for everyone and you’re probably right when you say you’ve probably taken it harder then you thought and that’s understandable. Take care and just d what you feel you can, that’s all anyone can ask of you πŸ™‚

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    1. Thanks Debbie! I do feel better from writing things down but I hate coming across as a whinger haha. I mean I’m not the one who has to suffer this illness but at the same time, it is affecting me also but to say that makes me feel & sound selfish. I guess all I can do is breathe & take one day at a time. Thank you for your kind words!

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  2. There really isn’t any need to blog if you don’t feel like it, Sarah. Everyone will understand and this is a very forgiving community. You’ll be welcomed back like a shot when you want to be here. πŸ™‚ A blog doesn’t have to be anything you don’t want it to be. If it helps to write it down, fine. Your main priority is sorting out this crisis in your life, and giving whatever help you can to your friend. None of us want to be in her shoes, and it makes you realise how very lucky you are to be walking free and healthy. Good luck, hon, and I hope it works out for her.

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